Dear Friends,
What is it about change that discombobulates us? Once upon a time our favorite bowling center changed their furniture. The bowling center was purchased by a new owner. He had started to fix up the place and change the rules on us. The previous owner had done the same thing but what was different about these changes this time.
I believe that it was the speed at which they were done. One week we go in to bowl and everything is familiar; the next week the furniture has been moved. That is it. They rearranged the furniture and didn't tell us or let us help. It was just done. If someone came into our home and did this we would not be able to stand it. I understand their right to fix things up and change rules but at whose expense. In the end it will be be theirs because we don't like change.
This is why the gradual approach is much easier for us to take. We don't feel out of place in our own homes. We teach you to declutter for 15 minutes, clear out a hot spot and do a 27 Fling Boogie to release your clutter in babysteps. We don't tell you to back a truck up to the front door and start pitching. That is very difficult. Even the thought of it tears us up on the inside. When we take the gradual approach, it gives our eyes, brains, and bodies time to adjust to little changes. The clutter got there a little at a time. and you can and will
get rid of it one bag or box at a time.
We have all cleaned up an area. We can spend hours doing it, but it won't stay that way very long. We will start to pile it up all over again. All because we did it too fast; we worked too hard and we crashed and burned in the process.
Do a little every day and see the changes start to happen in babysteps. One day you will wake up and your house will be clean and you didn't even know you were doing it. Please don't allow your perfectionism to rip off the clutter that you have been protecting yourself with. Learn about why you collected it and gradually let it go. If you strip it all away, you will just put it back with a vengeance. It is like going on a crash diet. We all have lost the weight but when we stop the diet it all comes back because we didn't address the real problem of why we ate it (collected it) in the first place.
Be good to yourself. We don't want you to feel uncomfortable. The peace will come with consistent babysteps. You can do this.
I think you need a hug! {{{{HUGS}}}
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